5 Reasons to Stop Being a Girl and Go!

Friday 5We’ve all heard it. Maybe it’s been a while, like since second grade, but at one point in our lives we’ve heard one male human say to another male human, “dude you run like a girl” or “dude, stop being such a girl.” It’s just what those silly boys say sometimes, right?

And one of those silly boys was featured as yesterday’s Letsrun.com quote of the day. After breaking the collegiate mile record, the University of Tulsa’s Chris O’Hare spoke thusly:

ย You’re having an argument with either side of your brain. This side is like, “I’m tired. I want to stop.” And then this side is like, “Look what you’d be giving up if you gave up right now, all the things you could achieve. Why are you thinking like that?” So in a split second, about 5 strides, you’ve gone from “I’m really tired,” to “What the hell are you thinking? Get on it! Stop being a girl and go!

Naturally, we at Salty Running have something to say about this.ย 

You might think we’re winding up and ready to pop ol’ Chris O’Hare in the nose, but you’d be wrong. In fact, here are the 5 reasons we think it was wise for Chris to stop being a girl – the 5 reasons being a girl might have prevented Chris from achieving his goal.

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OMG! If I was heading down the back stretch and noticed this I’d have to run to the nearest salon and fix that sh*t! (Photo credit: Conor Lawless)

1. What if there was a bug on the track?

2. Or a mouse?

3. Or a mirror?

4. A cute guy?

5. Or the extra tampon fell out of the key pocket of his shorts?

So there you have it. Chris was very smart for being the opposite of one of those pesky girls. Well done, Chris and congrats on your record breaking!

Are you offended by Chris O’Hare’s quote? Any other reasons he was wise to quit being a girl we missed?

Salty Running boss and mother of 3 little ones with PRs of 3:10:15 (26.2), 1:25:59 (13.1) and 18:15 (5k). I love to write about running culture, mental training, and fitting in a serious running habit with the rest of a busy life.

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  1. Maybe he was afraid that if he ran any faster he would trip himself with his own pure awesomeness. And if that happened, he ran the risk of breaking a finger. And there’s no way he could have finished the race like that.

    Says the “girl” who ran the last 18 miles of a 100-miler with a broken finger to place third. If only I had been a big bad man about it.

    Oh wait, I beat 221 of those too. Damn girls.

  2. There’s a “Summer’s Eve” ad above this post. Coincidence?

    In his defense, Chris did issue an apology:

    “I apologise for any offence I may have caused with my silly comment. It certainly was not meant to devalue the work ethic of females as I am well aware that there is no difference in work ethic between the sexes. As you can imagine I am fairly new to the mass interviewing game and this will certainly be the last time I am so careless with my words.”

    1. I saw the apology and I appreciated it. In posting my tongue-in-cheek response, I neglected to mention that I was not personally offended by the remark, and that parts of my own internal monologue during races and hard workouts might be just as offensive to others. We all figure out what drives us and forces us to take that next step when we’re at our weakest, and sometimes it’s really nothing more than an old cliche.

      On the same note, I think the biggest lesson here is not “quit being a girl” or “girls are AWESOME!” but of the importance of media coaching for our young athletes. It’s extremely difficult, especially in the heat of the moment, to refrain from saying EXACTLY what you are thinking – even if it is something you would normally reserve for conversation with a significant other or yourself (re: internal monologue.)

      I don’t think he actually meant any harm by it, and the quick apology seems to suggest he’s embarassed or realizes that though a simple remark, it was certainly a lightening rod. My comment (as stated) was tongue-in-cheek, as was the nature of the original post, as was (I suspect) the nature of Chris’ original remark.

      With all that said –

      GIRLS RULE!

      1. I personally liked your comment because you used it as an opportunity to tell us what a huge BA you are – not that we needed any reminders, of course ๐Ÿ™‚ But yes, agree with all of that! I think his apology shows he’s not an a-hole, just a college dude who said something out loud out of the college-dude-sphere that we out of that sphere don’t appreciate.

        Also, boys who respect girls rule too! ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. I hate when people say stop being a girl or some other version of the saying. You know what I’m a girl and I’m strong, I’m smart and I’m pretty sure I could run circles around a lot of guys. People need to stop equating being a girl with weakness, because guess what…we are not weak

    1. I don’t understand why chris O’Hare is getting all the stick here, one – he is not the only one that has said things like this, and two – he just ran a sub 4 minute mile, I think he has the right to say what ever he wants until one of you (strong women) run as fast or faster.
      another thing I think chris comes from Scotland and where women don’t give a shit and get on with things. People here ( America) say that women are strong because they have given birth to three child’s. sorry but who gives a shit, women have been giving birth for millions of years to far more children and in far worse situations than you (strong women) have. I have a strong respect for women and I think men and women are equal however when they single out one guy trying to make his dream come true by saying that he is a silly boy because he mentions a saying that has developed through thousands of generations in Scotland where women were and still are truly strong as they can get through what you get through without fucking complaining. Sorry but I had to vent my anger

      1. I don’t care how fast or slow someone runs, male or female, that does not give them license to be sexists (or denigrating in any way). This is JUST running – and running well DOES NOT make you a good person, just a good runner IF you run well (oh, I won’t even try to explain what that means either ๐Ÿ˜‰ )

        And your language, sir, indicates that you have little respect for constructive dialogue! Treat people with respect – I think that’s the take-away here.

    2. i agree that men and women are mentally equal. however, lets not kid ourselves it has been scientific proven that men are physically stronger than women and i have come to terms with that. On another note it makes me angry when you girls say your just as strong or even stronger than men because we give birth, sorry but that just makes you a group of women that have done exactly the same as hundreds of millions of women before you.how can you say you are strong because you have given birth to three child’s when hunderds of years ago women were giving birth do ten or eleven children on a horrible damp, dirty bed in a tenement building surrounded by bugs and disease with no anaesthetics. when i think of strong women i think of the suffragettes and Marget thatcher ( if you dont know of them look them up and you will see true strength.) i think chris grew up in a country were strong women fought for what they believed not just angrily posting on a fucking website but fighting for what they wanted, for example the suffragettes went on hunger strikes, smashed windows and one jumped infront of the kings horse to get the vote for women. Also Margret thatcher didnt have time for weak women that just gave birth and made dinner for the husband. she wanted to be surrounded be men who knew what they wanted and were willing to fight for it.
      i was taught to be what i want to be and not to let anyone tell me other wise and in all honesty it disgusts me to see women like you saying things like ” i hate it when men relate weakness with women” and it is you giving them every right to think like that.
      sorry angry rant over

      1. You state: “i agree that men and women are mentally equal. however, lets not kid ourselves it has been scientific proven that men are physically stronger than women and i have come to terms with that.”
        In fact that is NOT true in all cases. Yes, men have more muscle mass and can reach a higher VO2max than women, and so for shorter distances they do have a physical advantage, but as the distances get longer women actually gain the edge. So, let’s not compare apples to oranges. To expect a woman to run a 1600 at the speed of a man is unrealistic – but that doesn’t make her “weaker”. These standards always seem to be set by men based upon what men are best at.

      2. You’re not sorry, or you wouldn’t have commented twice on the same post under different names.

        Perhaps it disgusts you to see women upset over how we’ve been treated by men and even each other, but it disgusts me that so many people think it’s okay to continue with attitudes that keep us down. You say you see us as equal (despite your wrong assertion that science has proven men are stronger), and if that’s the case then hey, that’s great for you man. Way to go. Unfortunately not everyone is quite so enlightened, and words like those Chris O’Hare used way back then reinforce belief that women somehow aren’t as good. And yes, the hundreds of millions of women have been treated that way before us too, but that doesn’t make it right.

        It is a luxury of the person who is taught to be whatever he wants to be to not understand the frustrations of those who work hard to be what we want to be in spite of continually being told we are lesser.

        1. Can I just say that you are feeding and on this poor guys poor judgment like childish parasites, I’m not saying that running to and beyond your limit gives you the right to say things like what chris said but we all have times if weakness and we all say things that might hurt people and it is blaghtintly obvious that he did not intend to hurt anyone, also he was asked a question and he answered it, If you don’t want to hear what goes on in his head well don’t read it.

  4. I am glad you are calling him out, but I personally don’t think he is a bad guy or a sexist for saying that (particularly after his apology). That type of comment is SO common it is ridiculous. I’ve even heard my husband and boys say it before and have called them all out on it. I think it is important to keep calling guys out for these types of comments and remind them (we certainly don’t need to teach them) that we girls are pretty darn BA, so they certainly should not equate sub-par performance or lack of mental toughness with women/girls.

    1. I agree with you. I was just being silly with the ad thing. I don’t think Chris thought about what he was saying at first. Then when he did think about it, he realized it was a dumb thing to say, so props to him for admitting that. Rather than getting up in arms about stuff like this that a lot of guys just say without thinking, talking about it and of course, addressing this kind of stuff with our kids is a better way to make some change in this regard. At least that’s imho!

  5. Well, I’d hate to be a girl about it and get all offended and emotional about a silly offhand remark. heheh. ๐Ÿ™‚ I DO think it’s a cliche/stereotype that’s rooted in some truth (as women are at least strictly biologically speaking the “weaker” sex). But I also think it’s kind of fun to carry the underdog status and be able to blow those stereotypes out of the water at the most glorious of times. Like, for example, when one of my husband’s much younger male colleagues said he ran a 5k, and my husband mentioned that I’d run the same one that past weekend. The dude of course semi-bragged his time without being asked, and my husband (being the awesome guy that he is) rattled off my time, which BUMP-BA-DUH-DUM was 3 minutes faster than this 20-something dude could boast. I also confess I probably derive an unhealthy amount of joy from “chicking” unsuspecting dudes. So yeah, I don’t get offended by comments like that–I get inspired! ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Could not agree more!! It’s a little annoying but moreso just funny and offers great opportunities for blowing away some dudes’ preconceived notions ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. Am I the only one who thinks this guy totally ate his own foot when he issued his apology? He didn’t apologize for believing girls are weaker, he just apologized for letting us all know he thinks that. It’s like when you ask a thief if he’s sorry and he says he’s sorry he got caught! Ugh.

    I agree that the best way to change this sort of thinking is by talking about it if it comes up, definitely, especially talking with children. But I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with being offended by it–it’s offensive! Frankly, I’m exhausted with frustration by the notion that females are somehow weaker or lesser, which is as much a problem among women as it is among men, and I’m not going to minimize how I feel about it!

  7. I, too, am glad he was called out. His motives may have been benign, but many others who say it are being sexist. It often becomes difficult to distinguish the motives of the people saying it, so it is best not to say it. It is not humorous or truthful and that is the real issue. I am glad he apologized and I will use this as a teachable moment in my classes.