“Maybe I should get a coach,” I mused as I perused the websites of several personal running coaches who all claimed that they could help me reach my goal.
My husband sighed. Then he said, “You don’t really want a coach. You want someone to validate the choices that you’ve made with your training. You need to tell the coach, ‘Listen, I’m paying you to tell me that every decision I made was the right one.'”
Yeah, my husband knows me.
I. Am. Uncoachable.
I hate it when someone tells me what to do. I’ve had coaches in the past. It always works out the same way. First I’m excited and eager to work with them. I’m fully compliant the first month. I do everything they say. Then I’m less compliant in the second month, but more or less on track. Finally in the third month, I’m checked out of the relationship.
As I scanned the promises of the running coaches I saw on the web, I carefully thought over my future goals and past training experiences. Each year I set out some goals that I wish to accomplish in the upcoming year. I don’t reach every goal by the end of the year, but is this really a problem a coach could fix? I don’t think so. I think if I achieved every goal I made, I’m not reaching high enough. While I don’t achieve every goal every training cycle, I do always make some progress and improve somehow through the training plans that I’ve either created for myself or adapted from Run Less, Run Faster.
There can be benefits to having a coach, including such positives as accountability, advice, and motivation, but I’m not in a place in my life right now where having a coach is right for me. A successful coaching relationship is much like having a good relationship with a therapist; you have to WANT to be in therapy or be coached and you have to trust your therapist or your coach. I’m having too much fun and making sufficient progress doing my own training plan and I know that in order for a coaching relationship to work, I need to cede control to a coach. Ceding that control? Well, I am just not ready to do that right now.
I haven’t ruled out getting one in the future, but for now I admit that I am and will remain uncoachable.
Have you had a coach or are you uncoachable too?